the melody inside my heart, the unfinished song
do you realize the missing beat?
the recent world is a bit odd, is like the missing pieces
that music of my heart is such an indescribable feeling
do you feel touch while you are listening to it
me myself do not know how nice it sounds indeed
this endless incomplete melody
sounds so real inside me, it makes me wanna sing
now, I wanted to complete this melody
though others may thought that I am crazy
“mama… mama u know I love u
and loving u is like the food to my soul”
- p/s: this message is posted to my other blog page too -
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Monday, May 4, 2009
Porridge first or Cereals?
Time really flies, Cayenne grows older and wiser each day. She is now smiles more to us which makes everyone so happy to meet her.
Went to visit Calvin's aunt in Puchong yesterday, she advise us not to feed Cayenne sweetened food like cereals first as this might makes her not willing to take "salty" food like porridge later. She experienced this from Ian boy.
What the experts have to say about this? Please insert your "two-cents" here!!
Thank you (^_^)
Went to visit Calvin's aunt in Puchong yesterday, she advise us not to feed Cayenne sweetened food like cereals first as this might makes her not willing to take "salty" food like porridge later. She experienced this from Ian boy.
What the experts have to say about this? Please insert your "two-cents" here!!
Thank you (^_^)
Friday, April 17, 2009
Breastfeeding
Awww... it is so sad to see the little one coughing and having sleepless nights.
Phlegm and nose blocked are annoying Cayenne especially after feeding. She cough so badly each time right immediate after milk which later cause to vomit. This is so heart sickening to me and I blame myself for this. Brought her to the clinic for some medicine and the doctor said I shall breastfeed her to minimize all these sickness as she will get more antibodies from breast milk.
Now only I see more the importance of breast milk. I did but is only during confinement month.
Pains in me after my c-section when I could not even lie straight on my back to sleep. I tried to breastfeed her directly but it was hurt when she lies on my tummy. Then I switch over to use breast pump. Seeing her poo-poo so much every time during feeding which lead to lesser sleep is worrying me but never did I know this will eventually gone as she grows older. How I wish I knew all these before giving birth.
I shall breastfeed but now is too late. Luckily I have know a very good experienced doctor.
Phlegm and nose blocked are annoying Cayenne especially after feeding. She cough so badly each time right immediate after milk which later cause to vomit. This is so heart sickening to me and I blame myself for this. Brought her to the clinic for some medicine and the doctor said I shall breastfeed her to minimize all these sickness as she will get more antibodies from breast milk.
Now only I see more the importance of breast milk. I did but is only during confinement month.
Pains in me after my c-section when I could not even lie straight on my back to sleep. I tried to breastfeed her directly but it was hurt when she lies on my tummy. Then I switch over to use breast pump. Seeing her poo-poo so much every time during feeding which lead to lesser sleep is worrying me but never did I know this will eventually gone as she grows older. How I wish I knew all these before giving birth.
I shall breastfeed but now is too late. Luckily I have know a very good experienced doctor.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Cayenne says "Do you hear me?"
Very often old folks especially my mom and mother-in-law told me not to carry my baby too often as this will "spoilt" them (they will ask for more). Somehow I wonder...
Young babies or infants are just normal human like us or anyone else, do you agree?. Won't they feel bored too after too long being left alone there without any entertainment or without anyone to talk to? On the other hand, is it true that they will be "spoilt" if we respond to them each time they cried for attention?
Too much of carrying your baby is another big No No to old folks. Why? Of course I am not talking about carrying him or her all around the clock but every time my mom-in-law saw me carrying my baby she will warn me. Why? Why?? You think that I am too free? Don't we suppose to let the baby "burb" each time after feeding? Aren't we suppose to comfort them when they cries for sleep or caress? Hmm??
How true are all these old folk's tales? and so... Cayenne says "Do you hear me? I'm talking to you across the water across the deep blue ocean" *LOL*.
Young babies or infants are just normal human like us or anyone else, do you agree?. Won't they feel bored too after too long being left alone there without any entertainment or without anyone to talk to? On the other hand, is it true that they will be "spoilt" if we respond to them each time they cried for attention?
Too much of carrying your baby is another big No No to old folks. Why? Of course I am not talking about carrying him or her all around the clock but every time my mom-in-law saw me carrying my baby she will warn me. Why? Why?? You think that I am too free? Don't we suppose to let the baby "burb" each time after feeding? Aren't we suppose to comfort them when they cries for sleep or caress? Hmm??
How true are all these old folk's tales? and so... Cayenne says "Do you hear me? I'm talking to you across the water across the deep blue ocean" *LOL*.
Friday, February 6, 2009
Too Many Helping Hands
Phew! Finally I had successfully and safely gave birth to my little princess, Cayenne. Though the time in hospital was very scary but I feel relieved once I was allow to go home on the 6th day.
My loving sister offers me her place for confinement she even had prepared the room for me and my baby. Although I prefer to stay at mom's place but due to her kindness and offering I did not turn her down, so I moved in immediately after discharged from the hospital.
The first night was very exciting for all of them, sis and niece wanted to sleep with me and baby, but it was very exhausted for me. After having long hours and sleepless nights at the hospital I wish I could have a peace sleep at that moment but I could not reject them to share the room. Somehow I failed to lie down and snore straight away as my pain from the C-Section is over powering me. Cries alot!
Feelings got worst when sis wanted to move my baby over to her room when she claims that I would have sleep better without the baby beside me. Why can't she understand being a new mother, I wanted to be close with my baby. I don't deny my sis is trying to help me but somehow her procedures in taking care of my baby are not the way I prefer. Am I too stubborn or too fussy here? But it is just me!
Nightmare begun when mom has to return to work after CNY break on the 6th days which is also my 2nd day of total-sleep (all the while I sat on a long chair to sleep), sis threw everything back to me. She wanted me to learn on how to take care of my baby all by myself that night but doesn't she understand that I do need another night or two to recover before I could be independent again?
Wanted to speak to somebody but they all thought that I am crazy even the Indonesian maid made crazy stories about me. I cried again! Anyhow, my sister's behaviour is worrying me when the pacifier she stuffed into my baby's mouth is against Calvin's order. Then I knew she increased the milk volume for my baby in a sudden. Now my baby does not eat at a fix volume, she sometimes need 3.5oz and sometimes only 1.5oz is more than enough for her. Night times are the worst time to feed her as she doesn't demand on a fix volume. Spoken to mom, she blamed me that I am too pamper of my baby and I shall not rock her when she cries... haiz! Now I wanted to cry... again? Yeah! I cried for few nights at sis' place then I decided to move to mom's place and turn over a new leaf of motherhood.
Though now feeding baby at nights is a tough job but I wish I could monitor it and maintain her feed demand with a fix volume and fix time. That is why sometimes too many helping hands do not really mean a good thing.
My comment to others, plan it out the help you need during your confinement. A good helping hand is more than enough than thousands of inconsistent mindset.
My loving sister offers me her place for confinement she even had prepared the room for me and my baby. Although I prefer to stay at mom's place but due to her kindness and offering I did not turn her down, so I moved in immediately after discharged from the hospital.
The first night was very exciting for all of them, sis and niece wanted to sleep with me and baby, but it was very exhausted for me. After having long hours and sleepless nights at the hospital I wish I could have a peace sleep at that moment but I could not reject them to share the room. Somehow I failed to lie down and snore straight away as my pain from the C-Section is over powering me. Cries alot!
Feelings got worst when sis wanted to move my baby over to her room when she claims that I would have sleep better without the baby beside me. Why can't she understand being a new mother, I wanted to be close with my baby. I don't deny my sis is trying to help me but somehow her procedures in taking care of my baby are not the way I prefer. Am I too stubborn or too fussy here? But it is just me!
Nightmare begun when mom has to return to work after CNY break on the 6th days which is also my 2nd day of total-sleep (all the while I sat on a long chair to sleep), sis threw everything back to me. She wanted me to learn on how to take care of my baby all by myself that night but doesn't she understand that I do need another night or two to recover before I could be independent again?
Wanted to speak to somebody but they all thought that I am crazy even the Indonesian maid made crazy stories about me. I cried again! Anyhow, my sister's behaviour is worrying me when the pacifier she stuffed into my baby's mouth is against Calvin's order. Then I knew she increased the milk volume for my baby in a sudden. Now my baby does not eat at a fix volume, she sometimes need 3.5oz and sometimes only 1.5oz is more than enough for her. Night times are the worst time to feed her as she doesn't demand on a fix volume. Spoken to mom, she blamed me that I am too pamper of my baby and I shall not rock her when she cries... haiz! Now I wanted to cry... again? Yeah! I cried for few nights at sis' place then I decided to move to mom's place and turn over a new leaf of motherhood.
Though now feeding baby at nights is a tough job but I wish I could monitor it and maintain her feed demand with a fix volume and fix time. That is why sometimes too many helping hands do not really mean a good thing.
My comment to others, plan it out the help you need during your confinement. A good helping hand is more than enough than thousands of inconsistent mindset.
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Bad Heartburn Lately
I am suffering from bad heartburn since last two weeks and it get worst only last Saturday until I can't fall asleep until 3a.m. Have been struggling for remedies to cure it naturally (without any chemical intake) but in the end I just doze off due to too tiredness.
I read from few websites about pregnancy and free online remedies but I did not try all of them as some are too complicated for D-I-Y. Now I am in the 8mth-pregnancy stage and patiently waiting to complete it.
If you have any best (chemical-free) remedies for heart-burn, kindly update me.
Thanks a bunch (^_^)
I read from few websites about pregnancy and free online remedies but I did not try all of them as some are too complicated for D-I-Y. Now I am in the 8mth-pregnancy stage and patiently waiting to complete it.
If you have any best (chemical-free) remedies for heart-burn, kindly update me.
Thanks a bunch (^_^)
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Pelvic Floor Exercise
How to do Kegel exercises
It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. Here are some pointers:
Find the right muscles
To make sure you know how to contract your pelvic floor muscles, try to stop the flow of urine while you're going to the bathroom. If you succeed, you've got the basic move. Or try another technique: Insert a finger inside your vagina and try to squeeze the surrounding muscles. You should be able to feel your vagina tighten and your pelvic floor move upward. Then relax your muscles and feel your pelvic floor move down to the starting position. As your muscles become stronger — and you become more experienced with the exercises — this movement will be more pronounced.
But don't make a habit of starting and stopping your urine stream. Doing Kegel exercises with a full bladder or while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles. It can also lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder, which increases your risk of a urinary tract infection.
If you're having trouble finding the right muscles, don't be embarrassed to ask for help. Your doctor or other health care provider can give you important feedback so that you learn to isolate and exercise the correct muscles.
Perfect your technique
Once you've identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and sit or lie down. Then:
* Contract your pelvic floor muscles.
* Hold the contraction for three seconds then relax for three seconds.
* Repeat 10 times.
* Once you've perfected three-second muscle contractions, try it for four seconds at a time, alternating muscle contractions with a four-second rest period.
* Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions.
To get the maximum benefit, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles or isolating your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Also, try not to hold your breath. Just relax, breathe freely and focus on tightening the muscles around your vagina and rectum.
Repeat three times a day
Perform a set of 10 Kegel exercises three times a day. The exercises will get easier the more often you do them. You might make a practice of fitting in a set every time you do a routine task, such as checking e-mail or commuting to work.
Vary your technique with one of these methods:
* Try sets of mini-Kegels. Count quickly to 10 or 20, contracting and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles each time you say a number.
* Visualize an elevator. Slow down the exercises, gradually contracting and releasing your pelvic floor muscles one at a time. As you contract, visualize an elevator traveling up four floors. At each floor, contract your muscles a little more until you reach maximum contraction at the fourth floor. Hold the contraction and then slowly release the tension as you visualize the elevator returning to the ground floor. Repeat 10 times.
Biofeedback training
If you have trouble doing Kegel exercises, biofeedback training may help. In a biofeedback session, a nurse, therapist or technician will either insert a small monitoring probe into your vagina or place adhesive electrodes on the skin outside your vagina or rectal area. When you contract your pelvic floor muscles, you'll see a measurement on a monitor that lets you know whether you've successfully contracted the right muscles. You'll also be able to see how long you hold the contraction.
Another technique uses electrical stimulation to help you feel the muscles contract. The procedure is painless, although you'll experience a buzzing feeling as a small electrical current is applied to your pelvic floor muscles, making them contract. Once you feel this sensation a few times, you'll probably be able to duplicate the exercise on your own. Because simpler methods work for most women, this technique is rarely used.
When to expect results
If you do your Kegel exercises faithfully, you can expect to see some results, such as less frequent urine leakage, within about eight to 12 weeks. Your improvement may be dramatic — or, at the very least, you may keep your problems from worsening. As with other forms of physical activity, you need to make Kegel exercises a lifelong practice to reap lifelong rewards.
(Source: http://www.mayoclinic.com)
It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. Here are some pointers:
Find the right muscles
To make sure you know how to contract your pelvic floor muscles, try to stop the flow of urine while you're going to the bathroom. If you succeed, you've got the basic move. Or try another technique: Insert a finger inside your vagina and try to squeeze the surrounding muscles. You should be able to feel your vagina tighten and your pelvic floor move upward. Then relax your muscles and feel your pelvic floor move down to the starting position. As your muscles become stronger — and you become more experienced with the exercises — this movement will be more pronounced.
But don't make a habit of starting and stopping your urine stream. Doing Kegel exercises with a full bladder or while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles. It can also lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder, which increases your risk of a urinary tract infection.
If you're having trouble finding the right muscles, don't be embarrassed to ask for help. Your doctor or other health care provider can give you important feedback so that you learn to isolate and exercise the correct muscles.
Perfect your technique
Once you've identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and sit or lie down. Then:
* Contract your pelvic floor muscles.
* Hold the contraction for three seconds then relax for three seconds.
* Repeat 10 times.
* Once you've perfected three-second muscle contractions, try it for four seconds at a time, alternating muscle contractions with a four-second rest period.
* Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions.
To get the maximum benefit, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles or isolating your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Also, try not to hold your breath. Just relax, breathe freely and focus on tightening the muscles around your vagina and rectum.
Repeat three times a day
Perform a set of 10 Kegel exercises three times a day. The exercises will get easier the more often you do them. You might make a practice of fitting in a set every time you do a routine task, such as checking e-mail or commuting to work.
Vary your technique with one of these methods:
* Try sets of mini-Kegels. Count quickly to 10 or 20, contracting and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles each time you say a number.
* Visualize an elevator. Slow down the exercises, gradually contracting and releasing your pelvic floor muscles one at a time. As you contract, visualize an elevator traveling up four floors. At each floor, contract your muscles a little more until you reach maximum contraction at the fourth floor. Hold the contraction and then slowly release the tension as you visualize the elevator returning to the ground floor. Repeat 10 times.
Biofeedback training
If you have trouble doing Kegel exercises, biofeedback training may help. In a biofeedback session, a nurse, therapist or technician will either insert a small monitoring probe into your vagina or place adhesive electrodes on the skin outside your vagina or rectal area. When you contract your pelvic floor muscles, you'll see a measurement on a monitor that lets you know whether you've successfully contracted the right muscles. You'll also be able to see how long you hold the contraction.
Another technique uses electrical stimulation to help you feel the muscles contract. The procedure is painless, although you'll experience a buzzing feeling as a small electrical current is applied to your pelvic floor muscles, making them contract. Once you feel this sensation a few times, you'll probably be able to duplicate the exercise on your own. Because simpler methods work for most women, this technique is rarely used.
When to expect results
If you do your Kegel exercises faithfully, you can expect to see some results, such as less frequent urine leakage, within about eight to 12 weeks. Your improvement may be dramatic — or, at the very least, you may keep your problems from worsening. As with other forms of physical activity, you need to make Kegel exercises a lifelong practice to reap lifelong rewards.
(Source: http://www.mayoclinic.com)
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